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Is technology killing relationships?

Is technology killing relationships?

A pastor whose ministry harnesses technology reflects on what studies reveal.

We’ve all experienced it: You’re sitting in a room with friends and family, and suddenly you look up and realize everyone in the room is looking at their phones instead of talking.

An experience like this was part of what inspired Craig Groeschel, founder and senior pastor of, to start researching the benefits and drawbacks of technology, and how we can have a healthy relationship with our phones.

We talked to Groeschel about his new book, "Hashtag Struggles: Following Jesus in a Selfie-Centered World," the pull of technology and the importance of disconnecting.

What made you want to write this book?

We’re living for likes and we’re longing for love. We know there’s something more but we can’t put our fingers on it.

Well, I wrote the book because of my own personal struggles with social media and technology. A lot of people are almost shocked that someone who’s part of a church that really does love and leverage technology would write this book. Our church was blessed to create the YouVersion Bible app and so we obviously love technology, but I’d have to say I have a love-hate relationship with it as well.

The book is really about how do we put technology in its place. We don’t want to throw it out, because it’s so helpful in many ways. But at the same time, I refuse to be mastered by it and I want to help people find that same freedom.

I started studying the benefits of social media and technology — they’re all around us, we all see them, we all enjoy them. But I also started to study some of the negative consequences and how social media and technology are actually changing relationships for the worst.

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– Aaron Cline Hanbury is the editorial director for RELEVANT. Copyright 2015 RELEVANT Media Group.